Unless someone sends me some more white-trashiness, this is our final picture. Didn't we decide to do prom/graduation pictures next? I think we did, so send those on and I'll start posting those next! Of course, all future themes will be interrupted for pictures of Muliette and Eeq. :-)
Monday, May 31, 2010
White trash...the final frontier.
Guess whose...um, everything. There's just so much to choose from!
Unless someone sends me some more white-trashiness, this is our final picture. Didn't we decide to do prom/graduation pictures next? I think we did, so send those on and I'll start posting those next! Of course, all future themes will be interrupted for pictures of Muliette and Eeq. :-)
Unless someone sends me some more white-trashiness, this is our final picture. Didn't we decide to do prom/graduation pictures next? I think we did, so send those on and I'll start posting those next! Of course, all future themes will be interrupted for pictures of Muliette and Eeq. :-)
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Just trying to keep you well rounded SW!!
Elisabeth, I don't always get to keep up here so you could have addressed this before and I missed it. But couldn't Chris move in with you and your husband until he is back on his feet?
Whatever you all end up deciding to do, I hope it works out and happens quickly. It is so hard when someone is down and there is no set date for it all to be back to normal. When my grandpa was in the hospital and my uncle and I were taking shifts staying with him, I thought I would go crazy. I missed my kids and my house and my bed. That lasted about 2 months and from my understanding you have been on this rodeo much longer than that. I'm so sorry. I hope things get better quickly.
Love the Dukes of Hazards car.
That would be Hazzard's.
Oh CK, that would make sense. I didn't think of that, all I could ever come up with was the pooping factor.
That makes total sense though. 10 minutes after being induced with Ella I was rushed into an emergency c-section. The recovery was awful and thinking about it now, it would have been much worse if I had a full stomach.
CK, I'm glad you're back! Did you have a great time and did anything exciting or dramatic happen?
CK did you have Cheetos on your trip?
Okay, love the new trashy pic! Love the saggy diaper baby! That's not Nitsirk's LM is it?
I'm going to go out a on a limb and say that this is Kay's picture. And I am basing that solely on the fact that I remember her telling AP she had just sent one in for a post, and I don't think it's been posted yet.
Or, I could have totally made all that up in my head and Kay never said that. Who knows?
Hmmmm, if it's Kay's, the maybe Kay is the saggy diaper baby. We know she's not trahy now!
I think that this is an old picture, like from the '70's. If it's not, then kudos to whoever is channeling my childhood!
AP-Hardy-har-har. I'm infamous and unforgettable!
Maybe it's AP's house (the Charger?) and Jake?
I think it's an old picture too. It looks like a film picture, not digital.
Definitely an old picture. If you zoom in, it's Mickey and Minnie on the frisbee. I don't think they are too popular anymore.
Hey Robin! Whatcha up to today?
Yeah, that could be Jake. But Jake's only 17, and the picture looks older than that.
figures. i finally catch up and read about my worst nightmare, group b strep, and the post changes.
keeping good thoughts and hopes for mulie's lil baby!
Is that AP's little dude - I love the baby pool hanging on the fence!
That's a frisbee? I thought it was an archery target, which would be all kinds of awesome.
Jeanette - would you email me (LoopiRobbi@aol.com)? I've sent you two emails and I keep getting the mailer daemon thing, so I obviously have something fooked up!
SW - Nothing exciting. It's been cold, rainy and nasty all weekend. Will take the horses back to their pasture today. We're picking up a dining room set we inherited in Kelly's divorce (yay - not) and my car needs to be mucked out. Not necessarily looking forward to ANY of that.
I agree with Margaret that it's a baby pool, Bella. But an archery target would be awesome!
Maybe it isn't a frisbee, hell I don't know. But it *does have the mice on it!
RiM, email on it's way in 2 minutes.
Finally got a Popsicle!
Yay for a popsicle! (This whole labor process is strangely riveting and boring at the same time!)
I don't think Jake weighs as much now as that baby in the picture does!
I am still LOL'ing at Mulie mobbing the hospital priest because she was hungry. "Catholic! RIGHT HERE!! Super duper Catholic, gotta have a wafer for each finger to get my God on!"
A laugh which I desperately needed, so thank you for sharing your suffering Mulez. If that little popkin turns breech ah-gain.......she should have an offer from cirque du soleil pretty much right out of the chute. I mean there can't be *that much room to go in any direction.
Jeanette......I have mentioned this but not in awhile so don't feel bad.....it doesn't make sense for Chris to live with us because of two main reasons. The first being, we only have a small 1 BR bungalow, the tiny 2nd room was walled out for more living space by the previous people. There's just nowhere to put him. Second, we sold our car when he was in-patient for post ICU rehab. It was $1,000 per day and after selling HIS car and liquidating his savings there was still not nearly enough. Thank God he had never sold his old Honda, we use it for all of his appointments even tho it's a bitch for him to
get in/out of, poor thing. Anyway, his apartment is literally RIGHT next to the 38th st medical district. We have his GP, main neuro, both pharmacies, occupational therapy, & physical therapy all within a stone's throw. If we DID have room at my place (or if my parents' home wasn't such that he simply cannot navigate it with stairs everywhere) then we no doubt would have moved him out already. But seeing how difficult travel is on him.....even just 20-25 miles, it's good that we're so close to all the people and places he has to visit every
week.
Nobody in their 30s would want daycare. But I think it's especially scary for him because cognitively he IS "mostly there". Although he has some memory issues and sometimes can't see the forest for the trees, he can and does still talk about politics, the economy, animals, movies, ect. We're not even sure we could get him a placement in adult day care because he *is so "there" mentally.
I really think if we can just make it to July, we'll "make it", period. His apartment and meds are the biggest expenses and thank God, his monthly SSDI will cover them both.
Because of being so "high functioning" mentally (especially compared to where he was immediately post-coma) so far he has not qualified for any care services. As soon as his Medicaid starts in July, he will start getting 3 days a week of home health care. If we can keep him in his place this month......that is going to seem like freaking CHRISTMAS!! ("only" having to split up 4 days a week with mom & hubs)
I feel like such a bitch for writing yet another novel when we are giving notice to one of the most somber "holidays" we have......thank you Veterans and Veterans families......but also the impending arrival of La Petite Mulie! (I know it's because of emergencies that women in labor can't eat. But can't they give y'all TPN or something?? It seems so barbaric to force a women to engage in the most calorie-burning activity *ever.....with no rehydration or food)
Anyway ladeeez......if Chris' video didn't make you check your blood pressure, then maybe my self indulgent rants will. I can't believe I had to watch my brother, a short while ago a strapping 6 ft tall man in his 30s....weep as he realized adult day care might be a possibility. If 2 minutes in the CVS blood pressure chair can save you or someone you love from being on either side of this fence......please God, do it.
Oooo Mulez, was it a Hospital Special, a blue bell rainbow stacker pop?? When Chris was in the ICU so long that we all felt a little TOO familiar with the joint, we'd (my mom and me or my aunt and me) skulk up to one of the "regular" floors where they had the wonder known as The Patient Nutrition Room. Somewhere, on some family member's cell phone, there's a pic of my mom in her "we fly the rainbow flag" shirt, holding one of those Popsicles up by Chris' head.
Wooohah for Popsicles!! If you see a different nurse, act all wounded & say "someone was *supposed to bring me a popsicle!" and see if you can score another. If you get busted you can say your blood sugar is so low you "got confused".
I love your updates on Chris and I am so board right now, I would gladly read his entire schedule! I don't think you sound bitchy at all, just venting and maintaining my curiosity.:)
I guess I have to chime in that TPN doesn't feel like eating. Believe me.
Kay, how are you feeling today? Is your breathing better?
Is that you in the saggy diaper, Kay?
Elisabeth- I too like the chris updates, please keep writing them. And you don't sound bitchy, you're going through something huge with your brother and your family. You give me a lot of perspective to what my family goes through with my illness..
Oh and I have more white trash photos, god... I should video tape the next family reunion!! but to get these, I'm gonna have to bribe the sister to scan them in.. since I don't think we've have a real redneck moment caught on anything but film in forever. The delete button, single handedly saving the family image.
Oh, and not me. I was the air conditioner duct tape vent project. I'm pretty sure I'm to young to be that baby, I'm 26.
Kay, You're 26?
Yes... You calling me old! Oh noes.. time to call my plastic surgeon, I need to look 18. ;)
LFOB, I can only imagine. Thanksgiving was just 4 days after my brother's stroke and we all felt guilty eating this wonderful meal that my mom had gone home and cooked ALL night to then bring in....we had tons leftover & offered some to the nurses that were working the Thursday graveyard shift. One in particular kept going on and on about how succulent the turkey was, how the stuffing was the best she'd had in years.......and I remember thinking "if Chris can hear us.....he is probably thinking 'they are talking about succulent turkey when *I have a plastic pouch filled with what looks like old oatmeal and dishwater??!'...."
(sidenote: he did not recall anyone talking about the food while he was on life support/in the coma. He does swear there were times where he could smell food that wasn't there, interestingly enough)
LFOB......do you have a current prognosis or treatment plan that might offer a but of hope? Are you insured?
Mulie.....you are the sweetest little wench I know. Here you are springing forth a human from your very loins, taking time to assure me that my claptrap babble isn't offensive to you. Thank you so much for those assurances. It seems like we have all lived and breathed "The Stroke" for the last 6 months (6 months + 1 week yesterday I believe) that it DOES feel like that is all I ever talk about. I'm going to make a concentrated effort to diversify a bit here tho, because the D's are so much more than just moral support.
Case in point:
OMG SW your MENU!!! I've been meaning to comment on it all day. Holy schnikeys, if you served me that menu, I would live under your porch like a raccoon troll and simply live for the garbage scraps. It sounds creative, elegant, and JUST restrained enough not to be overwhelming. Please please please take pics of the plated food & let us ramen noodler's live vicariously.....=)
If you are old, I am in trouble at 32! I figured you were older because yous got a fews kids under your belt!
Oh and SW, I am breathing better but the pains still incredibly hard to deal with sometimes. I've been pumped full of to many pain meds that some have no effect at all.
Um "but of hope" should actually read "BIT of hope". Carry on.
Kay, we're close in age! You've got me bested by 3 years tho=) How old is your sister?? Chris is my only sibling and even tho we feel close in age *now, he is almost 9 yrs older than me as he was from husband "one point oh, the version that cheated on you and stole your flatware" according to my mom......whereas I am from husband "two point oh" who apparently doesn't cheat or steal but doesn't do much else either-again according to my mom. Geez too bad I can't put "that" into photograph form for AP.....I'd win the white trash priiiize.
Holy sweet Jesus! I was just checked and thst shit hurts! Like really bad!
I really feel like there are lots of un-mined white trash nuggets of history among us. Not that I'm *not excited about seeing some bitchin' perms beneath some fah-byoo-luhs red polyester mortarboards.......I just feel like our White Trash Episode isn't done yet. I guess that says more about me than everyone else, right??!
Mulie- I only have two biological children, and one is in heaven. But my daughter leslie is 5, and my STEP SON Ryan is 4. And I have an adopted daughter who is 11, Miranda. So really I've had one child. I can't have anymore, myself, so I have been blessed to have Ryan and Miranda. I love having a big, close family.
Elisabeth- Long term, the prognosis is not good. I don't honestly like talking about it, but this is, from almost every doctor I've gone to, valley fever is suppose to kill me. There is no 'cure' even if we do manage to get my titer low enough to get off ampb I will need fluconazole for life and the damage that's already been done is very much permanent.
Deep breath. Don't cry. -there's a reason for the world, you and I. (song lyric.)
Mulie, what's it feel like? My cousin said to imagine cruella de vil giving you a pap smear. But ya know......some things are *really hard to "imagine".
What were the results of said horrendous check?? Is Petite Mulie coasting her way down Duggar style or is she all "we'll talk when you pump some more popsicles & communion wafers thru that placenta".....??
Elisabeth- I have two sisters, and they're 5 years younger than me (21) and 10 years younger than me (16)
LFOB.....I am so sorry. I know fluconazole CAN be successfully used as a long term "maintenance" treatment....and I will certainly hope and pray that is the case for you.
I am sure you've already had your own experiences with this.......but just a reminder: my brother had a massive stroke on 11/22/09. On 11/23/09, they told us to say our goodbyes, make our peace, and talk to an organ donation liasion. Right this minute, my brother is at home, 3 feet away from me, watching dvr'd "family fued".
Doctors know a lot. But they don't/can't know everything, you know??
I know a HUGE part of my brother's mental block is extremely inadequate pain control. I mention it because you said some meds you don't even feel anymore. Are they at least trying??
My sincere hope and prayer for you is that you prove every damn one of em wrong, & have a long happy life with your beloved family and children.
Hi all!
Mulie - I hope the labor process is going well!
Kay - I am so, so sorry about everything you're going through. It is beyond unfair. (((hugs)))
Elisabeth, you're only 23? Oh honey. I thought you were around mid-thirties. Nothing brought me to that conclusion other than the maturity that I read in your posts. I have mass respect for you, doing what you are doing for your brother at only 23 years old. Not that I didn't respect it before, but now, wow. I hope he realizes how lucky he is.
And Kay, I didn't realize how young you were either. I'll be 26 this year, and I have a little issue going on that is a bit serious for me, but nowhere near as severe as what you are going through. I can't even imagine. I'm so sorry for what you are dealing with.
We are trying, right now the added pain the pneumonia and the fact that narcotics lead to a drop in my oxygen saturation means we're being really careful with what we give me.
I don't know why, but DVR'ing Family Fued made me laugh. :-)
Feeling old with all you young ladies!
kay
i am so sorry. i wish i had some magic cure.
elisabeth
i don't mind the chris updates. it is so hard what you are doing. be sure that someone is home on the 2nd. a surprise is coming.
Belllllllaaaa :-D Good to see you!
Mulie - Muliette went breech again? Hope they get her locked and loaded soon! You're in for quite a day and I'm wishing you the best!
Elisabeth - None of what you said sounds bitchy. If this place is the pillow your ass hits when your feet get out in front of you, we are proud to have you here!
Kay - you sound a tiny, tiny bit stronger today, although with that pneumonia you probably feel like you've been kicked in the chest. Can they give you a dilaudid baseline rate and PCA?
Jeanette......if ONLY I were 23! No, I meant LFOB had me "beat" by 3 years in that she is 3 years *younger than me, hah!! I'm barely hanging onto the edge of my 20s over here! And Chris is 38......this summer I'll turn 30 and he'll turn 39.
SW.....Chris is a self proclaimed game show geek. He is like the rain man of wheel of fortune, seriously. A couple weeks ago it was Saturday night and we realized how excited we were that we had THREE dvr'd family feuds and TWO wheels of fortune.......and suddenly we were like "duuuuuude. we are lame and old and boring".
However, our love of game shows remains in full force. We love everything except that stupid "catch 21". Sorry Carlton......your game show blows.
Kaytie- I'm feeling a little better today.. I'm about to take a nap, or try and just let myself be really still for a while. I will ask, about the dilaudid. I'll be back later you guys.
Rhys - Hope you are still getting mom time!
:::squinting at that baby in a diaper::: If you make it 6 ft tall and throw some Doc Martins on it...it just might be Jake. And that is not a wading pool or archery target. It's meant for a Ruger :-D
Twg........a surprize?!? From YOU and your amazing repertoir of talents??! My mind absolutely dances at the possibilities.....
Thank you, my sweet KayJay.....as always you (and AP, and SW, and Margaret and...) make me feel like I have a place to "come home and roost"......virtual tho it may be. I really love you ladies.
":::squinting at that baby in a diaper::: If you make it 6 ft tall and throw some Doc Martins on it...it just might be Jake. And that is not a wading pool or archery target. It's meant for a Ruger :-D"
Well, if you make that baby 5'7" and wearing Demonia platforms, it could be Jake. And if you make that wading pool his and not a dog's, it could still be Jake. And you remember his dad's (and my) love of Dodge Chargers, that might be his dad's car out back in my mom's and dad's backyard. :-D
I'm with Elisabeth about suspecting we've still got an untapped supply of white trash pictures. I know I do. Heck, still send them on...no harm in mixing stuff up some. :-)
And Kay, I'm sorry SW thought you were my son.
Oh, sorry, it was Jeanette who thought you were my son, Kay. I'm just so used to blaming SW for everything that it came automatically. I'm going to make her a good wife. :-D
I'm just so used to blaming SW for everything that it came automatically. I'm going to make her a good wife. :-D
AP - OMG! There went my coffee. Damn that was funny!
Mulez.......just saw your tweet about 40+ people unfollowing since last night. What the aitch?? Who would UN follow a woman labor??!
That is just ten different shades of rah-hoowd.
Hey! All I said was I thought it was Kay's picture! I didn't say it was her! That *was SW!
!!!!
I am in love with this dog:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/File:Sergeant_Stubby_2.jpg
The only dog to make it to the rank of Sergeant!
Sergeant Stubby looks so dignified!
Mulie, you had an exam? How dilated are you?
i wish i were still getting momma love! she went home on friday, the day i stopped to help with the accident. this miscarriage is just wreaking havoc on my body this time. boo.
but zaya tucked me in with his best blankies and animals, so i feel warm again. i need to make it until tomorrow night when Rock gets home.
o and thank goodness for doritos and juice, they are sustaining me right now!
Just exhausted from the weekend with my darlings. Six month old got his first tooth last night! Before my much needed nap I needed to try to catch up.
Go baby Mulie! Good look Mulie family.
Rhys, I somehow have missed your very sad news. I am sorry. Zaya is such a sweetie.
Elisabeth, whining here is okay by me. Some days that's the only reason I even show up, and you have way more to whine about than I ever could.
Kay, I know I've mentioned this before, but I saw on a talk show that Suzanne Somers had Valley Fever. She is 63 damn years old and living a good life. I don't know if there's anything to it, but maybe she found a doctor with an answer. If you google Suzanne Somers + Valley Fever, a lot of info comes up. Maybe somewhere there is more hope than you have been given. I ache for all that you are going through.
Hey, anyone here in marketing/advertising?
Just checking in to see if any babies are coming down the shoot.
chute - not shoot. Ugh...
No babies in the chute, Margaret.
Shoot - no babies in the chute :)
Rhys - I'm sorry to hear that you had a miscarriage :(
I'm trying to catch up, but I'm groggy.
We converted Richard's crib to a toddler bed and nap time isn't going well. Rick's grandmother is in town as well so we are trying to entertain her.
Mulie hope the labor goes quick and easy.
SW they don't let you eat when you are in labor because if you get an epidural you will puke.
rhys so sorry to hear about the miscarriage :(
Hi to everyone else! :)
Rhys - I didn't know you were expecting. Very sad news.
Rhys - I did not know. Rest up as much as you can and glad your husband is getting home. So sad.
Rhys.......I am so very sorry about your sad news. God rest & keep you, body and soul, as you mourn this devastating loss.
Afternoon all! Rhys, I didn't know you had a miscarriage. So sorry to hear that.
Any new tweets from Mulie lately?
I just got back from buying a new (used) car, and am exhausted by the process. I didn't have the usual back and forth negotiating hell because I bought it from a friend who runs a car dealership, but it was still a PITA.
I don't have the new car yet. There's something wrong with the radio and they've got to fix it, and I've got a TON of crap to clean out from my car. You saw a pic of the back seat. The trunk is 10X worse. So I'm taking a break before tackling that job. Ugh.
20th hour on pitocin and I am barely a 1. Yawn.
"Mulie, what's it feel like?" asked Elisabeth, in reference of an exam in labor. Umm. it feels like a circus car full of clowns unloading in you hoo-ha. And the nurse/midwife/doctor always apologizes for it being "uncomfortable". A stick in your eye is "uncomfortable"...this ? Much worse.
Rhys I am sorry for what you are going through.
Jeanette you too. I hope everything turns out ok.
"this miscarriage is just wreaking havoc on my body this time. boo."
What? And "this time"?
SW! Yay for your New Used car!
Oh Mulie - your girl has a mind of her own! I hope things start moving along.
Mulie, if this is a sign of things to come with this baby, you're going to have your hands full. :-D
SW, congrats on the new car! Just pull all that stuff out and take it to the trash can. Whatever you need in the future, you can buy another one. Problem solved!
Jill, is Richard doing okay during the night in his big boy bed?
AP he is doing fine at night. I need to get him blackout curtains for naptime, I think that will help.
Oh and some new phrases he has adopted: "Oh my goodness!", "Hey, watch this!" and my personal favorite "Upsie Daisy"
What did you get, SW?
Mulie- I am so feeling for you. And can i tell you that you are skeering the bejesus out of me right now? I definitely am not wanting to get induced at this point.
How long do they keep up the pitocin before they throw in the towel?
Jill, I bet the curtains do...had forgotten about that but Jake had trouble unless it was super dark, too. And while I love the "upsie daisy" one, I bet that "oh, my goodness!" is beyond cute.
"How long do they keep up the pitocin before they throw in the towel?"
Cross your legs, Mulie! You don't need a towel in there, too!
Mulie - score any more wafers? 20 hours and a 1 - YIKES!
Mulie, a 2008 Ford Taurus with 30K miles is the "new" car. My old car is a 2000 Mazda 626.
"They" haven't mentioned a c-section yet, but this effin Group B Strep could be keeping me here 48 hours after birth! I am pissed to find this out since I only have my mom till friday and I may not be able to leave till Thurs! I wanted to be home tomorrow! I am considering the c-section because I am 22 hours on pit and while I am getting contractions, it's nothing to write home abobut.
mulie
i am super glad, even if it's inconvenient, that they are keeping you and lil girl that long.
seriously. she will probably get antibiotics too, just to be safe.
Come on out little Mulie e e e (the last e's are the echo in the chute)
re: the miscarriage
this is the 6th one. i'm not a good baby factory. i didn't expect to keep this one, either, and was a little relieved it happened about 7-8 weeks in instead of the usual 14-15wks.
i am scared, though. i should be getting better. i am cold, dizzy, headachey. i even called Rock. he is trying to come home. i'm scared this is headed towards a DnC. that's 1 month of pay and then some. there is no freaking way we can pay that. i know it's a little thing, but we were starting to feel like things might look up. SSI owes us a ton, too. elisabeth, i think that's going around. even with that they owe, though, we'd still have a large bill.
it's freaking me out big time.
Rhys, The financial aspect must really add insult to injury. I hope the process will happen naturally for you, but know you are not good to your family if you are not well.
Rhys- why is a d and c not covered by your insurance??
Rhys,
Was the pregnancy a surprise? It seems like this would be a hard time to be adding another baby to the family, with your financial struggles and Lia's health issues.
Rhys - if you are feeling that way after a miscarriage, maybe you should get to a hospital? Don't know. The babies you have now need you very much.
Hey Mulie! I don't tweet and so thanks for keeping us up to date here! I sure hope things move along for you. Can your mom change her plans?
Mulie- my last baby was *very comfy inside too! I don't think induction would be so bad if you could walk around some. I will say that I was induced with the last 2 and they took for.ever to get moving. Once they did....it was fast! Hope you are able to get some rest, some popsicles, and some dialation!
Mulie! That stinks about staying in for 48 hours, but I am glad they are going to make sure they are taking good care of you and your girl. Sorry this is taking so long. :( Hopefully she will kick in. With R I hadn't dilated any at hour 18 so I had a mental breakdown and that got things moving. Wanna try that? haha
Hehe Taiya! Funny!
I have a new linen shirtwaist dress that I plan to wear to work tomorrow. About a half hour of ironing should do it. Who wants to come iron for me?
Don't bother, SW - it'll be wrinkled the minute you put it on and sit in that new car of yours.
Linen.....
why, why, why?
linen is a pain
CK is very wise, SW. Better to bring your iron, the board and the outfit to work and do it there. ha. :)
Or just pretend you ironed!
I'll iron it. I like ironing as much as I like doing laundry. Can I starch it a little? I love the smell of a hot iron on starch.
SW,
Follow Taiya's advice. And then don't sit down ALL DAY.
SW,
I'd love a new linen shirtwaist dress. But, alas, I've got to pay for taking care of the one I already have.
SW is going to *pretend* she ironed it then walk around all day and say "Wow! I can't believe how wrinkled this got since I ironed this morning" and all thanks to you, EL. :)
Exactly what I was thinking, CK.
I love ironning. When I was a SAHM in 1975 I "took in" ironning and sewing to make spending money. God, that sounds so old fashioned, doesn't it?
Anyone tuning in the Bachelorette tonight? DIL and I subjected the men to watching the re-broadcast of the premiere last night. Whoever chose that group of men should be fired.
I cannot watch the Bachelorette. For so many reasons. Sorry!
And before I go tend to some other things, I just can't let this go. Sorry.
Rhys, why in the world are you trying to have (or at least not actively trying to prevent) another baby when you can't even afford to feed and provide medical care for the two you have without depending on various forms of welfare? I honestly don't understand that mindset at *all. How is that okay?
Also, do you really think this was the most appropriate time, in the middle of Mulie's hospitalization, illness and struggles with labor to suddenly share your miscarriage, miscarriage history and the whole SSI thing, which I'm assuming is for Lia and her troubles due to Strep B, if I recall correctly? Because I found it incredibly inappropriate but hey, maybe it's just me.
I do know I'm going to step away for a bit and go unpiss myself now.
Rhys......I'm with KayJ. Shouldn't you maybe go to the hospital?? If you are the only adult in your home (and it sounds like you are as you've mentioned your hubs being in transit) what would happen if God forbid you started bleeding to such a degree that your body needed help to compensate??
I'm not trying to intimidate or attack you, I SWEAR......I am just very scared for you. When I had my miscarriage it was a surprise pregnancy and I did not already have children like you.....so even tho it was brutal, I can only imagine how it is with little ones who need your time and attention as you grieve.
I don't want to TMI you out, but when I started bleeding after the loss, it quickly went from "I can handle this" to "holy crap, babe get me to the hospital".
Also, lots of places will do payment plans for procedures. I don't have full coverage and when I needed my d&c/polypectomy they took the amount I was supposed to pay (20%) and I told them I needed a payment plan. The finance officer only balked a little before realizing it's better to accept the payment plan and do the procedure rather than possibly risk my life by denying the procedure.
I *did ask about it, they were not the ones who mentioned it. So asking doesn't hurt a bit, right??
6 miscarriages, I can't imagine. I mourn for your losses and I (forgive the butt-in-ski ness) beg you to give your poor body and psyche a break. Maybe in a couple years when Lia is more hardy & stable, you will be less stressed physically and emotionally.......maybe that would be a good Baby Window. It just seems like right now a pregnancy and new baby would be more hardship than joy for you.....and that is not fair to anyone, right??
No matter what, I am truly sorry for these losses. Please don't gamble with your health and future possible babies by not going to the hospital at all/on time. Call an ambulance if you need to.
Mulie, can you get up and walk around or no?
Taiya said: "SW is going to *pretend* she ironed it then walk around all day and say "Wow! I can't believe how wrinkled this got since I ironed this morning" and all thanks to you, EL. :)" LOL That's *exactly what I'm going to do, Taiya! But first I'm going to give the dress a whirl in the dryer just to unbend it a little bit.
AP, I don't know what Rhys's situation is, but a heck of a lot of babies, including two of my three, have come into this world when responsible people were actively trying to prevent pregnancy. Stuff happens, and sometimes it's a blessing beyond compare. A further point, many people need to depend on social services for a periond of time, often due to circumstances largely beyond their control. I'm sure many here can attest to that. And I'm not sure right now is a great time to get tough on Rhys. Not trying ot argue, just respectfully voicing a divergent, slightly liberal-leaning view.
Elisabeth - I am sorry for your loss, too.
Mulie - It sounds like they are taking it easy on the pitocin because you had a prior CS. Just know we are all thinking of you and your family. How's your hubby doing in all of this?
I knew it, SW! :D
The Bachelorette is on. I'm not really watching, I *swear. But Aly's abs are holy crap! She knows it too, buddy.
sorry
i should not have said anything.
it started out trying to reassure mulie about staying longer, and turned into too much.
we were not actively trying.
that's all i am going to say.
i think it's best if i step away too. sorry
RF - that's not been my experience, but I appreciate you sharing yours. I was SO damn vigilant about BC myself. Because I do value life and did not want to bring a new life into the world if I wasn't able to take care of it.
"I'm not really watching, I *swear. "
This is the odd new syndrome known as "Bachelorette Shame" :D
CK, I too was vigilant.
::grabbing RF's liberal hand and chanting "Red Rover Red Rover, send AP right over!"::
RF,
I guess I was just lucky in my viligence, then. I don't mean to judge *yours. Perhaps if I knew more about how reliable forms of BC can fail, I'd understand better, but this wouldn't be the place to share that.
For me, and most of my women friends, BC did allow them to plan their families.
(you know, RF, 'cause we want her in the liberal fold, and all...)
viligence = vigilance.
::oral contraceptives damage the brain cells that help you spell correctly::
CK, I always say viligence first, then correct myself. There's something hard about that word.
<<--bragging: I didn't eat meat today. I'm going to try Meatless Mondays and see if I can handle it.
I am watching Hoarders - yikes!
I don't think I could take that show, Margaret. Seems sad and disturbing. Unlike the Bachelorette. LOL
SW, we have a meatless night here too. Hubby isn't to crazy about it though. It's also helps cut the grocery bill and it can also be very healthy.
..wow... Ok.. I don't have anything else to say I'm like, gonna go back into my blankets and hide. That is a..
That is all. I can't spell
SW - Speaking of meatless. I made the PW Dinner Biscuits with rosemary yesterday. They were delicious! Today I did not want to wait for dough to rise and so I made them with bisquick mix added a little sugar into the mix to sweeten the dough. On top, I did it the recipe way but also added a sprinkle of sugar on top. Those biscuits were delicious, too, and very easy to make.
So a bachelor who claims to be a general contractor referred to Aly looking good in her "skinny jeans and high heels." Is it just me, or would a real general contractor have any idea what skinny jeans are? I think not.
Kay - good to see albeit briefly. Are you still in hospital?
Wow, Kaytie, that does sound good. I went looking for frozen yeast roll dough so I could make those, and didn't find it at the grocery store.
Random: my cat Buffy is bugging the crap out of me. I found a cat toy she hasn't seen in a while, and she loved it and she's brought it to me to throw at least 25 times. I'm tired of this game!
Sounds like Bachelor General Contractor has been around a lot of girl-talk :-D
Can you kick it? I mean the toy.
Hoarders fascinates me - why do you need coffee cans from the 1970s?
"Not trying ot argue, just respectfully voicing a divergent, slightly liberal-leaning view."
RF, I appreciate the other viewpoint. I really do. However 9 total pregnancies aren't accidental. They may not be planned but this also doesn't happen when people take proactive measures to prevent them.
"we were not actively trying.
that's all i am going to say."
Not actively trying, Rhys, I totally believe...not actively *preventing I also believe, based on this statement. So, really, you didn't answer my question. How in the world is this okay when y'all can't even provide basic necessities for the two you have? Why not actually answer something instead of leaving? Because, not preventing pregnancy as hard as you can is so incredibly disrespectful not only to those who provide for your kids but to those who actively don't have children they can't support on their own, despite desperately wanting them. I'm honestly not trying to be mean to you; I just don't get how you're okay all of this. Why not answer?
It's just a little puff ball with a short string attached. It wouldn't really kick well. But thanks for the suggestion!
OMG, I thought she had finally tired of it, but no!
"::grabbing RF's liberal hand and chanting "Red Rover Red Rover, send AP right over!"::"
In your dreams. :-P
*rips* the covers off Kay's head and props her up.
There will be no hiding around here, Missy.
Jake? Hoards. For real, and I hate it.
Rhys, It's all good by me.
Please, please, please don't talk about food! I am back to starving.
What does he hoard, AP? Do you let him hoard outside of his own room?
SW, tie it to your toe, kick and yell "GET IT!"
Some confusion might add interest to the game.
I watched some of Hoarders today and after what we went through with the in laws, Hoarders is tame.
Red Rover was one of the few games I didn't get called last for in elementary school. Think about it, the weak kids get called first because they can't get through. Right? Or am I just remembering it kindly.
ROFL AP! You must really not care one whit about my toes to suggest that!
SW, no, he keeps it confined there or I throw it away. I can't get his door open enough to get in now. He has *everything. Report cards from 4th grade. National Geos from 1974. Most of my drinking glasses. Every piece of mail he's ever received. My mom's old, broken electric organ on legs. Two broken TVs. At least one broken fan. I could go on and on. He freaks the hell out when I try to remove things and I finally gave up.
Bravo is a pleasant side effect to being in a long labor.
Mulie- me too on the hoarders being tame next to the in law! Although there was one episode that was damn close!
SW- The dryer is my friend too, as well as Downey Wrinkle Release. Buy it, and you *will thank me forever. Whenever I *do have to iron something my husband comes in screaming crap like "holy shit! What *is that?? What are you doing??" Because me and the iron are not bff's.
Oh my, AP! So he's skinny so he can squeeze through the crack in the door? That's one way to keep your (pleasingly plump) nosy mother out of your room, isn't it? :-)
I used to keep National Geographics. And then I realized it was crazy. When was I going to go back and read old National Geographics? I still have way too many Bon Appetit magazines I need to recycle.
LMAO, watching The Hangover. I'm a big fan of the stupid humor.
(I'm avoiding the other conversation).
Mulie I'm sending baby eviction vibes your way.
Downy wrinkle release? I'm intrigued!
I watched the Hangover again this weekend. It's so freaking funny. And I usually hate stupid humor. I think it's smart stupid humor, if that makes sense.
SW you've never heard of that?! I used it A LOT in college.
Mulie E! was my BFF when I was in labor.
I use downy, but haven't noticed wrinkle release. Is it a type of downy liquid softener, or some other magic.
"Oh my, AP! So he's skinny so he can squeeze through the crack in the door? That's one way to keep your (pleasingly plump) nosy mother out of your room, isn't it? :-)"
Yep, although I could force the issue and get in if I had to. It makes me insane. My dad has hoarding tendencies and my mom simply refused to let it happen. She'd throw his shit away without batting an eye, something he resented literally until the day he died. I've got the same tendencies and fight them like hell. Jake? Embraces it.
"I used to keep National Geographics. And then I realized it was crazy."
Exactly.
Some other magic. you spray it on, wait a minute, and shake your garment (I wrote 'stuff' first) and the wrinkles go away. You then need to be restrained from spraying everything that has even the slightest wrinkle just so you can see it be magic again!
SW it's in a spray bottle by the Febreeze.
All right, I'm going to go "iron the linen dress," and by that I mean go to bed early. Night all!
No way, Erin! That can't work!? ::grabbing keys and going to the grocery store for a can::
My grandparents had hoarding tendencies, but more depression era hoarding. We *may need this ____ ( insert coffee can, empty mayo jar, non working flashlight, newspaper, etc) someday.
It does SW! I swear! Go tomorrow and get some. And, as a bonus it smells good. So, if you wanted, not that I ever have, you could spray something that had been worn once but got wrinkled. ::looking innocent::
The woman on now has 60 birds and her house is full of trash and rats! That's a serious sickness.
Ap, you have mail.
::hiding my birds from Margaret::
::taking out my trash::
Hah, I totally heart SW.
"going to iron the linen dress" *does sound like perfect menu-planning code for something dirt-eeeeee!!
Am totally picturing you with one raised eye brow and a semi-lecherous appraising glance in AP's direction.
AP- what was Jake doing in this picture? He's looking very intently at something. Either that or he's pooping!
:::taking out my Bon Appetit and Gourmet:::
Don't worry girls - my house is far from dreamy but I don't have 60 birds or rats :) There is a hoarder/cat man that lives down the street. A few years ago a huge tree fell on his house and he didn't do anything about it. The tree basically cracked the house in half and he just let it sit there. The county finally came in and fixed it and took away the cats.
::hiding scrap bags of fabric::
There was a serious hoarding incident here recently. A couple got buried in their hoarding mess and were trapped in there for at least a week. That's scary.
Sandy- were they older? What kind of stuff did they have?
Sandy I read about that in the paper.
Wait, is it still reading about it in the paper if you read the paper online?
I'm not sure if they were older but it was just filled with crap.
I consider it reading the paper if you read it online.
from the high horse of reason, you seem to know all of my motives. what's the point in answering you? will it change your mind? cause you to understand, perhaps apologize for being harsh?
i don't think it's fair to poke at me when i'm obviously down and hurting. however, i am sure you will point out i brought it on myself. you are probably right.
i'm not ok with it. we were about to do something permanent. i do actively prevent. what else do you call doubling up on contraceptive measures, just to be safe?
half the time, they've been 'failed eggs' or 'blighted ovums' pregnancies. they just somehow happen.
you imply we do not provide necessities for our children? they eat, they have clothes, they have beds, and if anyone goes without, it's us - the parents. all the ssi goes towards *lia's* extra needs. i'm not being frivolous over here. we pay our bills, we do everything we can to make sure we do.
and i'm sorry - we PAY into social security and Rock WORKS for the system and cares for children who need help as well. often he is not even paid for his work.
not caring? not respectiful? whatever. not caring would be purposely skimming the system. not caring would be popping out more children than we could handle. how long have i been married? right, i see that you didn't ask that. that might explain *something*. as if i try all the time, b/c i like being a baby machine. i don't. i feel like afailure every single time.
and it was 8. didn't ask my family history, either. how all my sisters, aunts, grandmas have had multiple miscarriages. i count myself LUCKY to have the 2 i have. i never expected to have lia. never. considering the odds, i've got a 1:4 chance of ever carrying a child. i didn't even expect to keep this child. i expected to keep NONE of them.
i've got a high fever, i hope this makes sense.
if you have more questions, i'd appreciate an email, but your mode of choice is yours to choose.
i would have not minded these questions on any other day, but the implication that i'm a lying cheating person flicked me on the raw. apologies if this comes across harshly.
and mulie
i am heartily heartily sorry i ever gave you cause for fear or worry. i wasn't thinking well, but it's not excuse.
i am glad you're being watched. wish you didn't have this extra worry.
ps. you act like i've always lived on the system.
we have not.
nor do we plan to do so
Rhys- with a fever that high you need to get to a hospital. You could be risking your life.
el
yep. i'm headed there as soon as Rock gets home. kind man. he came home.
OK, I just caught up.
Rhys, "kind man"? Girl, he is your husband. He should be coming home, and it shouldn't be as a favor to you. It should be because you are his wife.
"AP- what was Jake doing in this picture? He's looking very intently at something. Either that or he's pooping!"
Erin, if you follow the hose, I think he's looking at the nozzle.
Rhys, for real, if you're on WIC, food stamps and medicaid, you are *not* providing for your children. There's no question about that. "Providing" means more than going to the grocery store and bring things home. And seriously, if you keep having pregnancies despite two forms of birth control, then you need to change birth control or refrain from sex until one of you can get something permanent done. I won't even get into a father working for free at *all when his kids are depending on taxpayers for food.
Now, no one said you lie or cheat so drop the pity party, okay? Acting irresponsibly and living, even in part, off the hard work of others is ugly a far cry from lying or cheating if you're doing it as a system family, which you are. Please don't put words in my mouth.
For the record, I was not harsh. I was honest and upfront, period. You just didn't like it because it made you uncomfortable. I owe you *no* apologies, not in any way, shape or form. Now, instead of sitting around here on a blog, why don't you get yourself to the hospital and get some help so the two you already have here don't lose you.
bella
you're right. but i still think he's kind (:
*i* do not have medicaid.
lia does.
*i* do not have WIC. lia does
i do NOT Have food stamps.
:( gosh.. confrontation sucks.
Kay! If I give you a hug will it make you uncomfortable? Even over the internet? I am a hugger. I am sorry that you have been having trouble breathing and with pnuemonia! :(
You can give me a hug, I think everyone needs a hug now. For real. ((((HUG TAIYA)))
/headdesk
The end.
Kay, I'm not a big real life hugger. Can I tug your hair gently instead? I like doing that to people I care about. :-)
Oooh, AP's a hair puller?
::wink wink::
Oh, look what brought Jeanette out. :-D
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