Repost: Took me so long to respond, you had a new post up!
AP - I am at the other end of the spectrum but same outrage. I give excellent care to all and their families. No matter if they are a convicted rapist, meth head, child molester or DNR over turned by the family, or guardian of the state that wants everything done even though it is hopeless. All the "reformation" is going to do is bog us down in more regulation and less reimbursement. Hold us to standards that are impossible because people are not cars. The hospitals are already on the brink. This is going to put many under.
"All the "reformation" is going to do is bog us down in more regulation and less reimbursement."
I can see this, too. When Miss Arse was tying to get her prescriptions filled, one of the places we stopped was Walgreen's. On their flashing marquee, the had a notice that they were no longer accepting Medicaid prescriptions. As she waited, Mom asked them about it and they told her it simply was too difficult to get reimbursed for no more than they were making and they didn't get reimbursed the full cost, anyway. We'll also be seeing more and more pharmacies going this route now, as a result of tonight, imo. Or, if they do, drug costs will rise.
Did anyone see/mention that RV sold his vehicle and bought something new - and then wanted to know how many more kids they can sponser? I wonder how true that is?
Watching Discovery Health - this woman has sex-omnia - sex while she is sleeping and has no memory of it at all... now that is a very very sound sleeper!!!
What a weird illness. And sad, you have to miss out on all the good stuff. Is she actively seeking partners while asleep or does her husband just take advantage of the situation?
The way she realized she had it is that she had sex with an ex, and didn't realize it til he told her a few days later, and then he told her that she had sex in her sleep all the time when they had been together!
Now there is a show about a woman that is 29 years old and weighs 900 lbs... How do you get that big? She's been bed bound for 4 years... Unbelievable. She's going to have some type of surgery and they say that she will lose 700 lbs.
I'm addicted to this type of medical shit on Discovery Health... It fascinates me!
I just realized it is after 3 and my eyes are crossing watching this stupid show - gonna have to get myself to bed! Tomorrow is my first day without any grandkids for a long time, gonna have alot of cleaning and organizing to get done!
900 lbs is crazy. Is the surgery gonna make her loose weight or does she have to loose weight for the surgery? Are they just going to vacuum 700 pounds of fat out? Where do they put it? Blag. I feel awful for her kids, that can not be fun.
Since AP opened the door, I cried big sobby tears of joy last night when the health care reform bill passed. Happiest political news since Obama was elected. It's long past time that U.S. join the other industrialized countries in the world regarding health care for our citizens. This bill doesn't get us to the promised land, for sure. No public option sucks. But it's a start.
Sorry I can't stay and debate today, but I've got a busy day ahead. Awkward birthday bagels at 8:30 in the conference room, and the prospect makes me want to kill myself, truly. Then finish the patent application I'm late on because of the damn owl.
Checking in on my way out the door...'morning, all!
Kathleen, I'd love to hear more about your vintage shop, too!
SW, all political leanings aside, have you ever sat down and played with numbers, what this health care plan will really *cost, both immediate and long-term, and then given serious thought to where that money will actually come from? And what the repercussions and side-effects will be? I don't mean listening to spin on *either side and accepting it as fact, but sitting down with pencil and paper, Google and done some good, old-fashioned, logical number-running based on actual figures you find on impartial sites? Try it sometime and you'll see that when you remove all political preferences and emotions and go at it in a business-like manner (which is what it is, in the end), it simply can't be done without running us into the ground. It's a fiscal impossibility. But if you can show me how it *can work, I'm all ears and I'll bet Kaytie is, too!
Sitting here wondering where the hell everyone is at b/c I thought I subscribed to comments via e-mail and nothing was coming through. Apparently I did not.
From what I have heard, yes this healthcare thing is going to screw the poor.
Wish I could say I was happy to be a democrat this morning. I am not. It was more about "making history" than what was best for our country. I think they just signed our nation's bankruptcy papers. And it has me wondering what will happen to our employer sponsored insurance plan. I need to do some research on that.
Hey there! You speak my name and I come a'running! lol.
Can't chat much this week since I promised a job that's bigger than I realized, but I will check in as often as I can.
Here's my pissed off moment of the day. Kelly goes every morning to his old house to say hi to his girls and check in with them before they head off to school. She is always in her room getting ready, they rarely, if ever, see each other or talk. Every night he calls the girls, and every night they have to make sure he's coming by in the morning. This Sat. when he dropped them off, she comes out to meet him and tells him effective immediately he is no longer allowed to come by and say hello to the girls. Per her, they "need closure" and the morning visits are "too hard on the girls" and she doesn't want him in her house.
Okay. I get that she doesn't want to see him. She doesn't see him. I don't get that she is willing to take something her girls *want and need away from them purely for the sake of doing something shitty to hurt him.
I'd love to know what she told the girls about why he isn't coming by any more. He is super, super careful to never say anything bad about her to them, but that is definitely not reciprocated.
I forgot to say, Kaytie -- I love your new doggie, and I love that he has a cord, just like Stellan. :-D
Kristen, I didn't read her entry! lol I wasn't interested in her topic, but after looking at it a few times I realized who it was. In all the time I had been on the MckBF, I have never seen CEJ post. Just thought it was interesting.
Kaytie - I don't know, but that's a good idea maybe. I know I'd be thrilled not to see her every single stinking morning in the ol' dropoff line. lol. I will suggest it to him.
Thank you RiM - Shortround II is sleeping on the chord again. I think he has grown attached to it :-D His owner is picking him up at 10 am today. I will miss him much. I offered to have him come stay with us again if it is too hard on her and him being in the hotel. Either way, I am ok with it. They love him much, they are just in a hard spot right now. I tell ya, though. This has given me just a tiny glimpse of what a Foster parent might feel. My hat is off to Foster parents!
Kaytie - the more I think of it, there's no way she'll do that. She isn't concerend about the girls seeing *him or vice-versa. She's interested in getting under his skin, and she's figured out a way to do it that she can back up with the parenting plan.
RiM she is just being a bitch. Hopefully she isnt telling the girls horrible things about their dad. Children should NEVER be pawns used as weapons against each other. That kind of crap pisses me off.....and closure to what exactly?
The story of the 900lb lady reminds me of a discussion on SIF's BF the other day. I think that the people around someone who has become like that should be held accountable. It is obvious that probably 400lbs ago she could not get out of bed herself to get food that means someone is bringing it to her. To me that is attempted murder and neglect.
For the health care bill....I really do hope that in the end it is everything we hope for and that our fears are put to rest. I can only hope.
AP you talked about looking at the numbers and such for the health care bill......My accountant mind ALWAYS wants to look at the governments books and fix their problems.
Yuck at the rain. We had it yesterday so today I get to take the boys to my mom's house. The older boy will be doing the yard and the younger one and I will be going to cash in cans.
Yes I know fun times....You are all jealous as hell I know.
Shannon - that sounds good. And so does the tikki masala. Yum. And yes, I was thinking of putting ham and chicken in the fried rice, so a salad would probably be enough. We've been on a fish taco kick and had them three times in the last week and a half, so we need inspiration!
Karen - fried rice is pretty easy. Don't listen to the recipes that say to just throw the egg in with everything else to cook, though. It needs to be cooked and smunched all up on its own and then added so everything doesn't get all mushy.
Morning Kristin, Shannon and Robin and everyone else!
Robin that sucks what that mother is doing to Kelly's girls!! My son and his ex do not have any type of official visitation schedule, its always been on her "whim" and if he wants his son extra, she usually says she has plans. They are now talking about seeing a lawyer and trying to get something legal - but the last time he did that - for one thing he could not afford it - and for another, as soon as he mentioned it, she denied him ANY visitation at all - she said if you want rights through the courts, you don't see him til the courts are done, and I will fight you all the way. She is leaving for Disney World this week, and he won't see him til after they get back cause this coming weekend is "his" weekend, and when they asked if they could have him this past weekend she said NO - so they really need something legal - but in the meantime, it might mean that he can't see him at all.. Klaye is only 8 and wouldn't understand why all of a sudden daddy isn't seeing him. I don't know what to tell them to do to be honest... its a catch 22!!
I make my fried rice with bacon, mushrooms, the green ends of green onions (don't know the official name - shallots comes to mind but dunno) with a little bit of the onion part, and soy sauce. Sometimes I fry and egg and add it but most times no.
Hmmm that makes sense Robin - I will have to try to find a recipe, I'd rather make my own, I don't like most fried rice in Chinese restaurants cause they are toooo salty!
Speaking of being too salty - did anyone else ever hear "salty" being a slang type term for being pissed off? My daughter was on the phone with me the other day and she was getting clothes out of the washer and she has accidentally washed a brand new pair of black leggings with her new spring bright colored tops she had just gotten and they all had tie dyed black crap from the leggings all over them, she kept pulling things out of the washer and then said Ohhhh I'm SO salty. I'm like huh?? What does that have to do with your clothes? Haha - makes me feel OLD!
Thats a good thing about making your own fried rice I guess, you can pretty much throw in whatever you like, anything goes! bacon in it sounds good kristin!
I just make white rice in my rice maker (long cooked) - then throw it into a frying pan and add the ingredients. Pretty easy - and you should know - I don't cook :) You might try low sodium soy sauce if you don't like it too salty.
as far as douche canoe parents - my father was one and my mom did what Kelly did - keep it neutral - eventually the kids will figure it out - my sisters did - I was 17 so I didn't visit with him b/c he was an a$$. Just tell your son to stay consistent and tell the child that he loves him as much as possible - they will get it eventually, in the meantime it will hurt and suck!
Karen - He should go see an attorney just for a consult. When everything finally went down with my ex he initially threatened to take them away, etc., and my attorney went to court for an emergency parenting plan that set out normal visitation time. He has more rights than she is letting on to him-- she can't deny him time, and her doing so will not look good for her. But I would definitely recommend he go at least for a consult,even if he can't hire that attorney, they can outline his rights so that he knows exactly where he stands, and he can always tell her, "my attorney says X and that we will do X if you don't allow me visitation." Even if he has to represent himself, a court is not going to allow her to just totally cut off contact between him and his son, barring some crazy circumstance where she could prove he is a danger to his child or something, which obivously doesn't apply here. He needs to consult with an atty.
Kristin - that sounds good, too, but I have to see the little bits of egg, even though I don't like egg that much. I think it's just called green onions -- shallots are little funky-shaped, sort of purple onions.
In a way you kinda have it easier Kristin, same as Angela - without having your son's birth father in his life, you don't have to share him, you don't have to worry about what might be said about you when he's visiting, you don't have to worry about what might be happening while he is visiting... I'm glad Ang doesn't have to share Tay with anyone!! Although the down side is you are 100% responsible for everything and that is hard! but it is good that you don't have to worry about what is going on at the other parents!!
Robin thats basically what I suggested, doing a free consult with an attorney and doing some online research about laws for visitation in Ohio - and then approaching his ex and her husband and sitting down and seeing if they can come up with something together, Right now they are pretty friendly with each other, and my son does go to the father son things at the school and birthday parties at her house and stuff. But up to this point he's just let her have her way as far as his visitation goes, he asks her what he can have, and she tells him and he goes by that - he has never ever missed a day that she has allowed - so thats another thing I told him is that he could always represent himself in court. He's a good day - he is married and has 2 other boys and he loves his son, no judge is going to allow her to continue to tell him when he can't see his son on a whim... he pays his support - he should be allowed to see him on a regular basis!
Karen - yes, he should, and the fact that he pays support and he does make sure he has regular contact even though there is no plan in place will always look good for him should it ever come to a court situation. But yes, a free consult would be a really good idea, even if he has no plans to pursue anything at this point, or ever.
I just found out yesterday that my best friend is being talked badly about by her daughter's "father". Her daughter is almost 11 years old, and is unfortunately the product of an affair. My friend was young and stupid and had never had a man pay attention to her like he did and the pregnancy was certainly NOT something that she had planned.
Well this 'man' told her the entire year they were seeing each other that his wife was abusive and would hurt their boys in a way to get back at him. He made her out to be a monster. Well is it any wonder why when the baby was born that my friend was not about to let him take her out of her sight?
He didnt tell his wife about her until she was almost 3 after he tried to get back in with my friend. When she refused he tried to play the guilt card on my friend but she was older and smarter and nothing matters to her more than her daughter.
Well apparently he just hooked up with one of our other friends whom he had a relationship with back in HS. He is making my friend out to be the one who wont let him see her for no good reason and poor him pity him. Well he also let it out that he has been in our local crazy ward several times for different things.
Yeah if there were ever a reason to keep your child away from the sperm donor this would certainly be one of those. I mean I was there for basically the whole thing. I know what he said and what he did so no one can ever say I dont know LOL
Some parents are just assholes and do use their kids for weapons. Hell my friend asked her daughter if she ever thinks of her father. She told her mom that she hates him...my friend told her she cant hate him because she doesnt know him.
Shannon-- geez, life gets complicated sometimes, doesn't it? Do you think he'll ever legally try to get visitation? And good for your friend for telling her daughter that.
I dont think he will every try to push anything legally. He hasnt as of yet. The funny thing that I probably shouldnt love so much but I do...She is his only daughter. He and his wife tried two more times and got two more boys. He also claims to have a son in Germany where he was stationed while in the service.
It says a lot for my friend with her telling her daughter that. Though this man hurt her more than any other human has ever hurt her she wont allow her daughter to have those feelings. It says a lot for her character.
That is where I am going to have issues - LM's father is not in the picture - so I am not sure how to handle that when it comes up.
LM is the best thing that ever happened and I love him with everything I have and I simply do not understand why people use kids for pawns nor do I understand how you don't want your child to be a part of your life or how you can just stop seeing your children.
I will have to say that I am glad (for me) that LM's father is not in the picture - it really makes a lot of things easier.
Kristin- I don't understand how anyone is able to just not be a part of their child's life, either. LM's father knows about him, right? And just chooses not to be a part of his life?
He also tried to friend me on FB and I sent him an e-mail to him asking for his medical information - gave me a bunch of BS and said "my" kid was cute.
I think if he had a "come to jesus" moment - I would probably let LM see him but only if I was present.
As far as FB - I don't want to friend him b/c I don't think he has the right to see "my" son growing up - if he wants to keep in touch and start a communication, then maybe that will change, but at this time that won't happen.
Kristin I know so many men that have nothing to do with their kids and unfortunately I know an equal number of men who want to be a part of their kids' lives and yet arent allowed to.
My husband has a daughter that he is not allowed to see because her mother/grandparents refuse to allow him to see her. They wont take his calls and wont return his messages. He would like to pursue legally to see her but he worries that with her being 14 it will cause too much of a disruption in her life. He has seen her off and on in her life so she does know who he is but she has really had a lot of turmoil and disruption due to her mother and he doesnt want to hurt her. Unlike her mother though he REFUSES to sign off on his parental rights.
Kristin- I don't think it's wrong that you want him to either get in or get out, so to speak. I agree that if he doesn't want to be a part of LM's life that it isn't fair for him to watch from the sidelines, either. If he *wanted to be part of his life, then I'd feel differently, obviously.
Shannon in that case its only 4 more years and then as an adult maybe they can have contact? Kristin, my daughter also worries when it comes time that Tay starts asking about his "father". I told her at some point in her life the man that she is with that cares for her and obviously whoever she is with will care for her son, that will be his "father" - and when he is much much older she can tell him about his "conception" if she chooses. Its sad that when a father wants contact with their child and they are a good person, the mother won't let them. But when the father is a low life - I don't blame the mom for not allowing that into their childs life.
Sometimes it gets so confusing though and the ones that are hurt most are usually the children. Its hard to know how to protect them emotionally and still allow for someone in their life who isn't the best for them. I don't have any ideas.... must be why I'm not a judge!!! ha!
Kristin - My weekend was great! I'm lucky enough to have traveled quite a bit around Europe and Dublin is far from being my favorite city BUT the atmosphere was great and we had a lot of fun!
Yes, I know what you mean Karen. I *wish that my SO could be that person but I think right now he is not, although LM does have an attachment to SO. SO just doesn't love him unconditionally - I think he still sees him as "mine" which is bothersome.
Shannon - that sucks. I hope for your husband sake that when she does feel comfortable, she will seek him out and they will form some sort of relationship.
Kristin - I agree with Robin - if he wanted to be part of LM's life - then let him prove it. But to snoop into your life through facebook just seems wrong. He shouldn't get the priviledge of seeing into your son's life unless he wants to be part of it in other ways....
My ex brother in law had a daughter he didn't know about until she was 25 years old - her mother knew he was the father, and when he found out she was pregnant when they were in high school he asked if it was his - and she told him NO - so he didn't pursue it. Then 25 years later the mother was on her death bed and gave her the information to contact my ex brother in law - and she did. It was a big happy reunion and she was totally accepted into the family - and he was so hurt he wasn't able to be there in her life growing up. But she said that her mother was just trying to protect her (from what - who knows) and was just greatful that right before her mother died, she told her how to contact him. I was with my sister in law at her house when his daughter first called - it was such a shock but so much fun meeting and getting to know her. She is the first daughter in the family that my niece that was in the accident and is paralyzed is in... and even after my brother in law committed suicide the family is still very much in touch with the daughter! It sometimes works out nicely!
Karen - IME, judges struggle, too. What psychololgists and studies say all sound right and good in theory, but when you're looking at living, breathing people who have feelings and are *real, it's never that easy.
Ok back to more cleaning - I got one thing cleaned out - bunches of receipts and paperwork and crap in there... now to put it all where it really belongs. Geeze and its already 2:15 and I haven't even started a load of laundry. Such a slacker today!!!
Corinne - I see, I see. ::nods:: I was just nosy. I was looking at the pics and your expressions and I thought, well, he's not Corinne's boyfriend,but maybe her sister? :;pondering::: This clears it all up!
Popping in to say hello - can't see the Anus vid at work but have been listening to hot air puffers on both sides of the healthcare debate all morning. I need valium!
Hi Margaret! I got my pendants on Saturday, and they are lovely! I am going to get my giveaway up and going on my blog soon, maybe tomorrow. So a big thank you again - I love them and am having a tough time deciding which one to keep...
(If you notice I have words stuck together, it's possible that there was an altercation between my keyboard, Katie, and a popsicle, and the popsicle won.)
There is a new technique used in heart valve replacement surgery, the problem is that that new surgery is not covered by health insurances in Belgium. (This technique causes the death rate post heart valve replacement surgery for at-risk patients to drop from 60 to 10%, so a substantial drop.)
13 surgeons working in a hospital in Antwerp (Flanders) decided to pay for the surgery themselves for patients who couldn't afford it. Without this surgery using the new technique, most of them would've died.
I know this is totally random but I *love stories such as this so I thought I'd share :)
so I just got an e-mail from my softball coach asking if I would be playing - softball starts on Monday.
I sent an e-mail out to sisters and mom asking if they would be interested in watching him on Monday's - late games. I kinda knew my PG sis would be out and my mom responds:
I can watch him on occasion. He doesn’t much like me lately so he might not be too happy with this arrangement. You will need to give me a “heads up” before the Monday you need me.
ugggghhh...and I respond
"K said as much and I figured as much too :) but it didn't hurt to ask.
Maybe you can be a cheerleader at the softball games :)
and he does too like you - he is just stubborn and defiant and 3. lol - did you see the pics from the Livestock show?"
and then I ask her the time for sis's shower on Saturday - in which she responds with
"I think the shower starts at 1:00."
My mom frustrates me at times.
I think I will play and take him with me for the early games - and then see who might want to watch him, if not I won't play the later games.
Everyone is welcome! The only real rules here are no spamming shit and no posting personal addresses, phone numbers or other similar info. I don't need that kind of stress. That's it, although it could change if someone gets creative or something. If you don't like what is said here, you can: 1) Say so; 2) Hold it in and stew on it; 3. Address it privately to the person who said it; 4) Snark about it to your friends; 5) Leave. Don't bother me with it, I don't care and I won't get involved. I might, however, talk about you behind your back or post your email/message to me on here. *grins*
Them's the rules...all of them.
Have fun!
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Shit, (yes pun intended) puff the magic anus should be a song by someone...
"Shit, (yes pun intended) puff the magic anus should be a song by someone..."
The Village People. *nods*
Kathleen, hi! How are you?
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Took me so long to respond, you had a new post up!
AP - I am at the other end of the spectrum but same outrage. I give excellent care to all and their families. No matter if they are a convicted rapist, meth head, child molester or DNR over turned by the family, or guardian of the state that wants everything done even though it is hopeless. All the "reformation" is going to do is bog us down in more regulation and less reimbursement. Hold us to standards that are impossible because people are not cars. The hospitals are already on the brink. This is going to put many under.
"All the "reformation" is going to do is bog us down in more regulation and less reimbursement."
I can see this, too. When Miss Arse was tying to get her prescriptions filled, one of the places we stopped was Walgreen's. On their flashing marquee, the had a notice that they were no longer accepting Medicaid prescriptions. As she waited, Mom asked them about it and they told her it simply was too difficult to get reimbursed for no more than they were making and they didn't get reimbursed the full cost, anyway. We'll also be seeing more and more pharmacies going this route now, as a result of tonight, imo. Or, if they do, drug costs will rise.
I'm good AP, we have been in the midst of buying a little funky vintage shop since Jan and it finally happened today. Made 27 bucks and everything...
How are you? And everyone else? Hi!
The Village People! I saw them - they opened for Cher - they were OLD - and this was about 3 years ago.. on Cher's final final final tour! ha!
Did anyone see/mention that RV sold his vehicle and bought something new - and then wanted to know how many more kids they can sponser? I wonder how true that is?
I think RV gave up pot or something for the sponsoring ducats. Just my guess, all un-educated and all...
I think RV gave up pot or something to have the sponsoring ducats. Just my guess, un-educated and all...
LOL Kathleen possibly! But how could you deal with HER if you weren't high all the time... if he did - he made a big mistake!!
Watching Discovery Health - this woman has sex-omnia - sex while she is sleeping and has no memory of it at all... now that is a very very sound sleeper!!!
Totally, he will be writing his sponsor kids, "please send uncle veggie a few buds this months. Please???"
lmao I just laughed OUT loud Kathleen... I'm sure they will find a way to use those poor kids they sponser somehow!!
What a weird illness. And sad, you have to miss out on all the good stuff. Is she actively seeking partners while asleep or does her husband just take advantage of the situation?
The way she realized she had it is that she had sex with an ex, and didn't realize it til he told her a few days later, and then he told her that she had sex in her sleep all the time when they had been together!
Now there is a show about a woman that is 29 years old and weighs 900 lbs... How do you get that big? She's been bed bound for 4 years... Unbelievable. She's going to have some type of surgery and they say that she will lose 700 lbs.
I'm addicted to this type of medical shit on Discovery Health... It fascinates me!
Oh geeze and she has an 8 and 13 year old daughter too.... So sad
I just realized it is after 3 and my eyes are crossing watching this stupid show - gonna have to get myself to bed! Tomorrow is my first day without any grandkids for a long time, gonna have alot of cleaning and organizing to get done!
Night all - or morning all I guess I should say!
900 lbs is crazy. Is the surgery gonna make her loose weight or does she have to loose weight for the surgery? Are they just going to vacuum 700 pounds of fat out? Where do they put it? Blag.
I feel awful for her kids, that can not be fun.
It's only midnight here, good old west coast time. Good night though.
Hey Kathleen! Nice to see you! I've been wondering where you've been hiding.
Morning all!
Kathleen - Congrats on the vintage shop! Do tell, I would love to hear about it.
Since AP opened the door, I cried big sobby tears of joy last night when the health care reform bill passed. Happiest political news since Obama was elected. It's long past time that U.S. join the other industrialized countries in the world regarding health care for our citizens. This bill doesn't get us to the promised land, for sure. No public option sucks. But it's a start.
Sorry I can't stay and debate today, but I've got a busy day ahead. Awkward birthday bagels at 8:30 in the conference room, and the prospect makes me want to kill myself, truly. Then finish the patent application I'm late on because of the damn owl.
Hope everyone has a good Monday.
Checking in on my way out the door...'morning, all!
Kathleen, I'd love to hear more about your vintage shop, too!
SW, all political leanings aside, have you ever sat down and played with numbers, what this health care plan will really *cost, both immediate and long-term, and then given serious thought to where that money will actually come from? And what the repercussions and side-effects will be? I don't mean listening to spin on *either side and accepting it as fact, but sitting down with pencil and paper, Google and done some good, old-fashioned, logical number-running based on actual figures you find on impartial sites? Try it sometime and you'll see that when you remove all political preferences and emotions and go at it in a business-like manner (which is what it is, in the end), it simply can't be done without running us into the ground. It's a fiscal impossibility. But if you can show me how it *can work, I'm all ears and I'll bet Kaytie is, too!
That said, enjoy the awkward bagels. ;-)
Morning AP and SW!
Sitting here wondering where the hell everyone is at b/c I thought I subscribed to comments via e-mail and nothing was coming through. Apparently I did not.
From what I have heard, yes this healthcare thing is going to screw the poor.
I'm going to have to look at it a little better.
AP - can you give links of some impartial sites?
Morning Daisies!
Florida peeps are having fun.
Illinois peeps are having fun too.
Morning Sandy! Glad to hear!
Morning all!
Wish I could say I was happy to be a democrat this morning. I am not. It was more about "making history" than what was best for our country. I think they just signed our nation's bankruptcy papers. And it has me wondering what will happen to our employer sponsored insurance plan. I need to do some research on that.
Morning!
Waving hello to Kathleen. Enjoy your Vintage shop!
Karen - Would you believe we have lifts built into the ceilings at work with weight capacity of either 500 lbs and some 1000 lbs?
Taiya - I sure hope you can get child care so you can rest up!
SW - My condolences for another damn Happy Birthday moment.
Hey Sandy! Have a wonderful day with your little guy!
Waving at RiM if she stops in! I hope all is well and you have just been busy moving!
Hey there! You speak my name and I come a'running! lol.
Can't chat much this week since I promised a job that's bigger than I realized, but I will check in as often as I can.
Here's my pissed off moment of the day. Kelly goes every morning to his old house to say hi to his girls and check in with them before they head off to school. She is always in her room getting ready, they rarely, if ever, see each other or talk. Every night he calls the girls, and every night they have to make sure he's coming by in the morning. This Sat. when he dropped them off, she comes out to meet him and tells him effective immediately he is no longer allowed to come by and say hello to the girls. Per her, they "need closure" and the morning visits are "too hard on the girls" and she doesn't want him in her house.
Okay. I get that she doesn't want to see him. She doesn't see him. I don't get that she is willing to take something her girls *want and need away from them purely for the sake of doing something shitty to hurt him.
Anyway. Nice.
Oh RiM - what a bitch!
Seriously - if the girls didn't want to see him, I am sure they would let him know.
WOW! ugggghhhhhh! I hate people like that.
RiM - that's awful.
I'd love to know what she told the girls about why he isn't coming by any more. He is super, super careful to never say anything bad about her to them, but that is definitely not reciprocated.
I forgot to say, Kaytie -- I love your new doggie, and I love that he has a cord, just like Stellan. :-D
RiM, That situation sucks!
OT - Anyone else notice CEJ coming out of the woodwork on BF? I thought she made her blog private too?
Mulie - I haven't been on BF in awhile. What does she have to say?
Oh - forgot to say hey to SW! Hope the bagel exchange wasn't too painful. Also hope you get some work done and that Molly isn't too distruptive :)
Kristen, I didn't read her entry! lol I wasn't interested in her topic, but after looking at it a few times I realized who it was. In all the time I had been on the MckBF, I have never seen CEJ post. Just thought it was interesting.
Oh RiM - I am sorry that has happened to Kelly and his girls. Can he drive them to school in the morning and use that time to be with them?
Kaytie - I don't know, but that's a good idea maybe. I know I'd be thrilled not to see her every single stinking morning in the ol' dropoff line. lol. I will suggest it to him.
Thank you RiM - Shortround II is sleeping on the chord again. I think he has grown attached to it :-D His owner is picking him up at 10 am today. I will miss him much. I offered to have him come stay with us again if it is too hard on her and him being in the hotel. Either way, I am ok with it. They love him much, they are just in a hard spot right now. I tell ya, though. This has given me just a tiny glimpse of what a Foster parent might feel. My hat is off to Foster parents!
RiM - I sure hope she lets him do that. A win-win all the way around!
Kaytie - the more I think of it, there's no way she'll do that. She isn't concerend about the girls seeing *him or vice-versa. She's interested in getting under his skin, and she's figured out a way to do it that she can back up with the parenting plan.
Hi ladies!
I'm not at all caught up but I hope you are all doing well!
RiM- That woman is a real jerk.
Crap - Then she is a vindictive bitch. Sigh...those poor girls.
All right. What's everyone planning for dinner? I was thinking about fried rice, but what would I have with it?
Morning ladies.
RiM she is just being a bitch. Hopefully she isnt telling the girls horrible things about their dad. Children should NEVER be pawns used as weapons against each other. That kind of crap pisses me off.....and closure to what exactly?
The story of the 900lb lady reminds me of a discussion on SIF's BF the other day. I think that the people around someone who has become like that should be held accountable. It is obvious that probably 400lbs ago she could not get out of bed herself to get food that means someone is bringing it to her. To me that is attempted murder and neglect.
For the health care bill....I really do hope that in the end it is everything we hope for and that our fears are put to rest. I can only hope.
AP you talked about looking at the numbers and such for the health care bill......My accountant mind ALWAYS wants to look at the governments books and fix their problems.
I am slow cooking the rest of the pork roast we had last night to make pulled bbq pork sandwiches.
Left overs are in store for "my boys"...I am working tonight.
I like to put scrambled eggs, peas and corn in my fried rice and so usually do just a salad with it.
Good morning Daisy's!
Cleaning today - and organizing our new desk from my mom - its sitting in the spare bedroom empty!
I'm making Tikki Masala (sp??) tonight - with basmati rice. Its a jar sauce but SO good - and we have naan too!!
Patti is painting with Megan today - so its my day to clean clean clean! Its raining here today anyway!
Still watching Molly off and on - it facsinates me the people that are watching and their comments!
I've never tried fried rice home made - hmmm, that would be interesting to try!
Morning Karen!
Yuck at the rain. We had it yesterday so today I get to take the boys to my mom's house. The older boy will be doing the yard and the younger one and I will be going to cash in cans.
Yes I know fun times....You are all jealous as hell I know.
Shannon - that sounds good. And so does the tikki masala. Yum. And yes, I was thinking of putting ham and chicken in the fried rice, so a salad would probably be enough. We've been on a fish taco kick and had them three times in the last week and a half, so we need inspiration!
Karen - fried rice is pretty easy. Don't listen to the recipes that say to just throw the egg in with everything else to cook, though. It needs to be cooked and smunched all up on its own and then added so everything doesn't get all mushy.
Morning Kristin, Shannon and Robin and everyone else!
Robin that sucks what that mother is doing to Kelly's girls!! My son and his ex do not have any type of official visitation schedule, its always been on her "whim" and if he wants his son extra, she usually says she has plans. They are now talking about seeing a lawyer and trying to get something legal - but the last time he did that - for one thing he could not afford it - and for another, as soon as he mentioned it, she denied him ANY visitation at all - she said if you want rights through the courts, you don't see him til the courts are done, and I will fight you all the way. She is leaving for Disney World this week, and he won't see him til after they get back cause this coming weekend is "his" weekend, and when they asked if they could have him this past weekend she said NO - so they really need something legal - but in the meantime, it might mean that he can't see him at all.. Klaye is only 8 and wouldn't understand why all of a sudden daddy isn't seeing him. I don't know what to tell them to do to be honest... its a catch 22!!
I make my fried rice with bacon, mushrooms, the green ends of green onions (don't know the official name - shallots comes to mind but dunno) with a little bit of the onion part, and soy sauce. Sometimes I fry and egg and add it but most times no.
That is how my mommy makes it :)
Hmmm that makes sense Robin - I will have to try to find a recipe, I'd rather make my own, I don't like most fried rice in Chinese restaurants cause they are toooo salty!
Speaking of being too salty - did anyone else ever hear "salty" being a slang type term for being pissed off? My daughter was on the phone with me the other day and she was getting clothes out of the washer and she has accidentally washed a brand new pair of black leggings with her new spring bright colored tops she had just gotten and they all had tie dyed black crap from the leggings all over them, she kept pulling things out of the washer and then said Ohhhh I'm SO salty. I'm like huh?? What does that have to do with your clothes? Haha - makes me feel OLD!
Thats a good thing about making your own fried rice I guess, you can pretty much throw in whatever you like, anything goes! bacon in it sounds good kristin!
I just make white rice in my rice maker (long cooked) - then throw it into a frying pan and add the ingredients. Pretty easy - and you should know - I don't cook :) You might try low sodium soy sauce if you don't like it too salty.
as far as douche canoe parents - my father was one and my mom did what Kelly did - keep it neutral - eventually the kids will figure it out - my sisters did - I was 17 so I didn't visit with him b/c he was an a$$. Just tell your son to stay consistent and tell the child that he loves him as much as possible - they will get it eventually, in the meantime it will hurt and suck!
Gonna go get started on my cleaning and get some laundry in - I'll check back in here as I check in with Molly once in a while!!! Later!
Now I want fried rice :)
Karen - He should go see an attorney just for a consult. When everything finally went down with my ex he initially threatened to take them away, etc., and my attorney went to court for an emergency parenting plan that set out normal visitation time. He has more rights than she is letting on to him-- she can't deny him time, and her doing so will not look good for her. But I would definitely recommend he go at least for a consult,even if he can't hire that attorney, they can outline his rights so that he knows exactly where he stands, and he can always tell her, "my attorney says X and that we will do X if you don't allow me visitation." Even if he has to represent himself, a court is not going to allow her to just totally cut off contact between him and his son, barring some crazy circumstance where she could prove he is a danger to his child or something, which obivously doesn't apply here. He needs to consult with an atty.
Kristin - that sounds good, too, but I have to see the little bits of egg, even though I don't like egg that much. I think it's just called green onions -- shallots are little funky-shaped, sort of purple onions.
In a way you kinda have it easier Kristin, same as Angela - without having your son's birth father in his life, you don't have to share him, you don't have to worry about what might be said about you when he's visiting, you don't have to worry about what might be happening while he is visiting... I'm glad Ang doesn't have to share Tay with anyone!! Although the down side is you are 100% responsible for everything and that is hard! but it is good that you don't have to worry about what is going on at the other parents!!
Robin thats basically what I suggested, doing a free consult with an attorney and doing some online research about laws for visitation in Ohio - and then approaching his ex and her husband and sitting down and seeing if they can come up with something together, Right now they are pretty friendly with each other, and my son does go to the father son things at the school and birthday parties at her house and stuff. But up to this point he's just let her have her way as far as his visitation goes, he asks her what he can have, and she tells him and he goes by that - he has never ever missed a day that she has allowed - so thats another thing I told him is that he could always represent himself in court. He's a good day - he is married and has 2 other boys and he loves his son, no judge is going to allow her to continue to tell him when he can't see his son on a whim... he pays his support - he should be allowed to see him on a regular basis!
Ok going for real this time for a bit - be back in a while!!
Karen - yes, he should, and the fact that he pays support and he does make sure he has regular contact even though there is no plan in place will always look good for him should it ever come to a court situation. But yes, a free consult would be a really good idea, even if he has no plans to pursue anything at this point, or ever.
I just found out yesterday that my best friend is being talked badly about by her daughter's "father". Her daughter is almost 11 years old, and is unfortunately the product of an affair. My friend was young and stupid and had never had a man pay attention to her like he did and the pregnancy was certainly NOT something that she had planned.
Well this 'man' told her the entire year they were seeing each other that his wife was abusive and would hurt their boys in a way to get back at him. He made her out to be a monster. Well is it any wonder why when the baby was born that my friend was not about to let him take her out of her sight?
He didnt tell his wife about her until she was almost 3 after he tried to get back in with my friend. When she refused he tried to play the guilt card on my friend but she was older and smarter and nothing matters to her more than her daughter.
Well apparently he just hooked up with one of our other friends whom he had a relationship with back in HS. He is making my friend out to be the one who wont let him see her for no good reason and poor him pity him. Well he also let it out that he has been in our local crazy ward several times for different things.
Yeah if there were ever a reason to keep your child away from the sperm donor this would certainly be one of those. I mean I was there for basically the whole thing. I know what he said and what he did so no one can ever say I dont know LOL
Some parents are just assholes and do use their kids for weapons. Hell my friend asked her daughter if she ever thinks of her father. She told her mom that she hates him...my friend told her she cant hate him because she doesnt know him.
Shannon-- geez, life gets complicated sometimes, doesn't it? Do you think he'll ever legally try to get visitation? And good for your friend for telling her daughter that.
I dont think he will every try to push anything legally. He hasnt as of yet. The funny thing that I probably shouldnt love so much but I do...She is his only daughter. He and his wife tried two more times and got two more boys. He also claims to have a son in Germany where he was stationed while in the service.
It says a lot for my friend with her telling her daughter that. Though this man hurt her more than any other human has ever hurt her she wont allow her daughter to have those feelings. It says a lot for her character.
That is where I am going to have issues - LM's father is not in the picture - so I am not sure how to handle that when it comes up.
LM is the best thing that ever happened and I love him with everything I have and I simply do not understand why people use kids for pawns nor do I understand how you don't want your child to be a part of your life or how you can just stop seeing your children.
I will have to say that I am glad (for me) that LM's father is not in the picture - it really makes a lot of things easier.
Kristin- I don't understand how anyone is able to just not be a part of their child's life, either. LM's father knows about him, right? And just chooses not to be a part of his life?
Kristin - You're a good mother and I'm sure you'll handle things just fine when the topic of LM's father comes up :)
I agree with Corinne!
And hi, Corinne! I missed you earlier.
Yes RiM - he knows.
He also tried to friend me on FB and I sent him an e-mail to him asking for his medical information - gave me a bunch of BS and said "my" kid was cute.
I think if he had a "come to jesus" moment - I would probably let LM see him but only if I was present.
As far as FB - I don't want to friend him b/c I don't think he has the right to see "my" son growing up - if he wants to keep in touch and start a communication, then maybe that will change, but at this time that won't happen.
Maybe that is wrong, but that is how it will be.
Hi Corinne! Thanks!
How was your weekend?
RiM - thanks too :)
Kristin I know so many men that have nothing to do with their kids and unfortunately I know an equal number of men who want to be a part of their kids' lives and yet arent allowed to.
My husband has a daughter that he is not allowed to see because her mother/grandparents refuse to allow him to see her. They wont take his calls and wont return his messages. He would like to pursue legally to see her but he worries that with her being 14 it will cause too much of a disruption in her life. He has seen her off and on in her life so she does know who he is but she has really had a lot of turmoil and disruption due to her mother and he doesnt want to hurt her. Unlike her mother though he REFUSES to sign off on his parental rights.
Kristin- I don't think it's wrong that you want him to either get in or get out, so to speak. I agree that if he doesn't want to be a part of LM's life that it isn't fair for him to watch from the sidelines, either. If he *wanted to be part of his life, then I'd feel differently, obviously.
Shannon in that case its only 4 more years and then as an adult maybe they can have contact? Kristin, my daughter also worries when it comes time that Tay starts asking about his "father". I told her at some point in her life the man that she is with that cares for her and obviously whoever she is with will care for her son, that will be his "father" - and when he is much much older she can tell him about his "conception" if she chooses. Its sad that when a father wants contact with their child and they are a good person, the mother won't let them. But when the father is a low life - I don't blame the mom for not allowing that into their childs life.
Sometimes it gets so confusing though and the ones that are hurt most are usually the children. Its hard to know how to protect them emotionally and still allow for someone in their life who isn't the best for them. I don't have any ideas.... must be why I'm not a judge!!! ha!
Kristin - My weekend was great!
I'm lucky enough to have traveled quite a bit around Europe and Dublin is far from being my favorite city BUT the atmosphere was great and we had a lot of fun!
good times Corinne.
Yes, I know what you mean Karen. I *wish that my SO could be that person but I think right now he is not, although LM does have an attachment to SO. SO just doesn't love him unconditionally - I think he still sees him as "mine" which is bothersome.
Shannon - that sucks. I hope for your husband sake that when she does feel comfortable, she will seek him out and they will form some sort of relationship.
Corinne - and so this Luc guy? Is your sister's boyfriend? A brother? Cousin? Your pics on FB were beautiful.
<---nosy, all day, every day.
Kristin - I agree with Robin - if he wanted to be part of LM's life - then let him prove it. But to snoop into your life through facebook just seems wrong. He shouldn't get the priviledge of seeing into your son's life unless he wants to be part of it in other ways....
My ex brother in law had a daughter he didn't know about until she was 25 years old - her mother knew he was the father, and when he found out she was pregnant when they were in high school he asked if it was his - and she told him NO - so he didn't pursue it. Then 25 years later the mother was on her death bed and gave her the information to contact my ex brother in law - and she did. It was a big happy reunion and she was totally accepted into the family - and he was so hurt he wasn't able to be there in her life growing up. But she said that her mother was just trying to protect her (from what - who knows) and was just greatful that right before her mother died, she told her how to contact him. I was with my sister in law at her house when his daughter first called - it was such a shock but so much fun meeting and getting to know her. She is the first daughter in the family that my niece that was in the accident and is paralyzed is in... and even after my brother in law committed suicide the family is still very much in touch with the daughter! It sometimes works out nicely!
Karen - IME, judges struggle, too. What psychololgists and studies say all sound right and good in theory, but when you're looking at living, breathing people who have feelings and are *real, it's never that easy.
Ok back to more cleaning - I got one thing cleaned out - bunches of receipts and paperwork and crap in there... now to put it all where it really belongs. Geeze and its already 2:15 and I haven't even started a load of laundry. Such a slacker today!!!
RiM- Luc is my cousin :) He is in Dublin for 6 months, as an Erasmus student. (Erasmus is an exchange program for university students in Europe).
He is in his last year of law school. And he is gay (not that it matters but just so you know *everything) :P
Corinne - I see, I see. ::nods:: I was just nosy. I was looking at the pics and your expressions and I thought, well, he's not Corinne's boyfriend,but maybe her sister? :;pondering::: This clears it all up!
RiM- Lol :D
Popping in to say hello - can't see the Anus vid at work but have been listening to hot air puffers on both sides of the healthcare debate all morning. I need valium!
Hi Margaret! I got my pendants on Saturday, and they are lovely! I am going to get my giveaway up and going on my blog soon, maybe tomorrow. So a big thank you again - I love them and am having a tough time deciding which one to keep...
(If you notice I have words stuck together, it's possible that there was an altercation between my keyboard, Katie, and a popsicle, and the popsicle won.)
RiM - I'm glad you like them!
OT -
There is a new technique used in heart valve replacement surgery, the problem is that that new surgery is not covered by health insurances in Belgium.
(This technique causes the death rate post heart valve replacement surgery for at-risk patients to drop from 60 to 10%, so a substantial drop.)
13 surgeons working in a hospital in Antwerp (Flanders) decided to pay for the surgery themselves for patients who couldn't afford it. Without this surgery using the new technique, most of them would've died.
I know this is totally random but I *love stories such as this so I thought I'd share :)
so I just got an e-mail from my softball coach asking if I would be playing - softball starts on Monday.
I sent an e-mail out to sisters and mom asking if they would be interested in watching him on Monday's - late games. I kinda knew my PG sis would be out and my mom responds:
I can watch him on occasion. He doesn’t much like me lately so he might not be too happy with this arrangement. You will need to give me a “heads up” before the Monday you need me.
ugggghhh...and I respond
"K said as much and I figured as much too :) but it didn't hurt to ask.
Maybe you can be a cheerleader at the softball games :)
and he does too like you - he is just stubborn and defiant and 3. lol - did you see the pics from the Livestock show?"
and then I ask her the time for sis's shower on Saturday - in which she responds with
"I think the shower starts at 1:00."
My mom frustrates me at times.
I think I will play and take him with me for the early games - and then see who might want to watch him, if not I won't play the later games.
Okay...thanks for letting me vent.
Kristin - I'm sorry, that sucks. Maybe your mom was just in a bad mood today, which is why she responded that?
***new post up daisies****
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